Pregnancy is supposed to be this wonderful experience you share with your mom. But what happens if your mom dies while you’re pregnant? You’re already feeling super emotional all the time and now you’re a first time Mom grieving for your mom.
It doesn’t matter how far along you are or how old you are. The thoughts running through your mind stab you right in the heart. You’re trying to prepare for your little one(s) but in reality, you’re just numb.
You want to shut down and give up. But you can’t because you have a little miracle(s) growing inside of you and you need to get ready if you want to or not.
Don’t be afraid to cry. It’s okay to still feel and let out your feelings. Just watch your stress level and you will be fine. Look, people will tell you crying is unhealthy for the baby. But you know what’s even worse, when you hold in all your pain and feelings. It’s only going to explode later on after your child’s birth.
That’s exactly what I did. You know what happened a year later when I wasn’t breastfeeding anymore and my daughter started sleeping through the night, the loss of my mom hit me hard.
Tears came crashing down randomly one night. I felt as if I could make a river of tears. The pain along the tears made my heart feel as if I was being stabbed.
I was too numb to feel for so long that my mind punished me. Please don’t do what I did. I regret every moment of bottling up my grief. I don’t want the same for you.
Instead of bottling things up, take the time always from all the baby things. It can be anything between going for a walk every day or reading a book to escape reality. Whatever it is, make sure it makes you happy and reminds you of your mom, if you’re up for it.
When your baby is born, life is going to be difficult as well but you just have to look for support in other ways after your mom dies. Life will go on without your mom if you like it or not.
You got this. Stay strong and remember take time to grieve. It’s so important for your baby and you.
Do you like what you’re reading? Check out my page, Kimi Ann-Marie for various of posts about relationships,anxiety/depression, mom life, and grieving. Check out my page, Positive Thinking About Parents Death for grieving advice about your mom or dad and reminding yourself you’re not alone.