Dear Future Self,
Congratulations, you’re getting married to your best friend and soulmate.
I hope you’re having fun setting up. Did you decide who’ll be your bridesmaids and maid of honor yet? Pick wisely because the bridal party can either make or break your wedding.
Let’s get to the real question I’m trying to dance around. How are you feeling about not having your dad there to walk you down the aisle?
Whether he’s passed away or simply isn’t present in your life, have you thought about it?
Look, I know it’s a touchy subject, but you had to know it would come up sooner or later. You are getting married after all.
Take a deep breath. You can think about this. Most importantly, you can do this.
I know a wedding is all about traditions and superstitions, such as a white dress to give away the bride and something new, old, borrowed, and blue.
But you know what, screw traditions, it’s your wedding. Do what you want, it’s your day. No one said every tradition needs to be followed at your wedding.
I know, I know: you had no choice but to break the “give away the bride” one whether you like it or not.
Take another breath.
Do you have someone who is like a father figure to you, maybe your Father-in-Law, uncle, or a family friend who can walk you down the aisle?
I know, I know: it’s not the same. But it’s better than walking alone if you don’t want to. Or maybe you want to do that instead?
Don’t think you’re replacing your dad in your heart if someone else walks you down the aisle. It’s not like that at all.
It’s okay, girl. He will be there in your heart, I promise.
So, go enjoy the planning and your day; it’s all about you anyways. I wish you the best of luck and a bright new future with your soon-to-be husband.
Your Inner Voice