Anxiety isn’t something we wish on our kids, especially if we suffer every day with it. We wish they miss the gene or don’t copy us. But what if you will suspect he or she has anxiety. Don’t panic, breath, and look out for these signs.
Toddlers have tantrums and overreact about everything. A kid with anxiety tends to overreact often because she or he is feeling anxious. The kid doesn’t understand the feeling, so he or she gets even more worked up.
2) Heavy breathing
During tantrums, it sounds like he or she is having a panic attack. Normally, it just sounds like “I’m freaking out,” but your kid sounds like he or she is breathing heavy. It’s possible your child could be feeling anxious.
He or she actssss as if the “whats” and “buts” run through the tiny little mind when new things happen or feeling uncomfortable. The kid may have anxiety because he or she is scared of change and being out of the norm.
Yes, this is normal but he or she takes it up a notch. The frustration seems as if he or she putting his or herself down in the little brain. The anxiety brews up an uncomfortable feeling and unleashes frustration to the max.
Your kid clings to you in a new social environment or on off days. Social anxiety is the key here. He or she may feel out of place at first. At some point, he or she will open up to the new environment. Don’t expect this to happen right away though because it’s not going to happen. He or she may also wake up very off and moody. Anxiety is just high today for your kid. He or she just needs to know you’re here. Also, you as the parent needs to explain to them it’s okay to be anxious and guide them through how to handle it.
6) Huge changes
No one likes changes in his or her routine, especially life alternating events or new things. Kids aren’t any different because change can be scary for them as well. Some kids are okay with changes and can move onwards without a problem. Others show signs of being anxious and having a difficult time adjusting. A kid with anxiety pushes away from any kind of changes. It doesn’t matter how BIG or small the change; he or she will freak out. The best thing to do is walk him or her through changes with detailed steps and be ready hugs. Hugs show comfort kids know you’re there and care about his or her feelings.
Feelings are difficult to understand for toddlers in general because they’re all so new and not sure how handling what’s going on in his or her minds. Anxiety hyphens emotions, which causes someone to overthink and mislead the current solution. Kids don’t understand fully what’s going on in his or her mind, so if anxiety is present he or she wouldn’t know. As a parent, you help him or she learns how to cope with each of the emotions fogging up the mind.
8) Not listening
Let’s face it; toddlers DON’T listen right away. It’s normal, right? Oh yeah, it definitely is the norm. The key ingredient of anxiety is looking at the face. You can read all kinds of feelings in the face. If he or she looks at you with a black stare or nervous, anxiety is creeping up inside the mind. It may seem as if he or she just not listening, but the truth is it’s something so much more than the norm.
The smallest things can turn into a huge deal because anxiety is whispers all of these “what ifs” inside his or her mind. These freak outs may be an anxiety attack. If he or she is kicking or screaming, it’s typically called a tantrum. The thing is “anxiety tantrums” can mislead parents who just push them aside as the normal toddler behavior. Anxiety brings heavy breathing and screaming when things get too overwhelming. Parents need to look at for heavy breathing because it’s more than likely he or she is having an anxiety attack. Another sign is being overly scared, which brings freakouts too. Anxiety is building up and control of emotions turns hopeless.
Everything has to be perfect or a freak out starts because of something doesn’t work out or turning out just right. Failure turns into something way more than just not get it right. It’s more of a disappointing and feeling like the world is over. Anxiety loves to break down the worst possible solutions in every direction. If perfection isn’t in sight, the mind freaks out. Kids need to learn that it’s okay to be wrong. It’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay if something isn’t perfect. Mistakes are allowed. Practice makes perfect. Anxiety will not let kids understand this. As parents, it’s our jobs to help him or she understand “everything is going to be okay” and we’re here.
Anxiety can get the best of children too. We tend to believe it’s not possible for kids to have anxiety. Why aren’t they allowed to know what anxiety is? How come they can’t have anxiety? Maybe, we should start noticing the signs and helping this generation with the reality of anxiety. If we help our children understand anxiety, maybe they will stop getting looked down on in the future. They can help others understand how real anxiety is for many people. So sit down your children, and talk about anxiety. No matter what age he or she is because even a three year old can experience anxiety.
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