Thanksgiving is all about being thankful for what we have in our life. But what happens when the one person you wish you can in your life is gone? Well, you’re heart breaks into the most difficult puzzle ever. You can’t figure out how to put your heart back together until Thanksgiving is over. Social Media is a curse for the motherless on Thanksgiving and every other holiday. Thanksgiving is by far the worst though because of all the “I’m thankful for my mom post” clouding up your news feed. Read this if thankful post brings you down.
As simple as breathing sounds, it easy to forget sometimes when you’re reading a thankful post on Thanksgiving about other people’s mothers. It makes you want to curl up in a ball and hide from everyone. Unfortunately, you can’t because Thanksgiving is all about family and food. That’s the hard part, right? Your mind is continently reminding you about your mom not alive to be “family” you see on Thanksgiving. You’re reminded over and over again about how you would be thankful for you could have one more moment with her. As a habit, you go to Facebook and see, a newsfeed of how thankful friends are for his or her parents and you get numb.
Take a deep breath.
Looks I know it hard when your mind is spinning and others are sharing posts about Moms all day, but you can get past this. I promise. You have to start noticing what you have to be thankful for because it’s important. You can’t live in the dark grieving cloud forever. It’s not healthy to live like that. Your mom wouldn’t want you to forget about what’s around you. She would want you to live onward and have a life of your own.
Of course, it’s not going to be easy especially on Thanksgiving. You have to for yourself. I bet you have a lot to be thankful for this year.
Do you need examples? Maybe if you hear what I’m thankful for, you will be able to make a list of your own.
I’m thankful for my boyfriend.
We have been together for 8 years now. He’s the best man I could ever ask for in my life right now. He keeps me on my toes and ALWAYS here for me on my darkest days and brightest days. He knows exactly what to say when I’m freaking out or having an anxiety attack. My boyfriend did meet my mom, so I’m thankful he could. He, unfortunately, didn’t meet her when she was healthy but at least he knew her for 5 years.
I’m thankful for my boyfriend’s family.
I have ALWAYS wanted to experience a huge close family because my family is small and not really close. I’m lucky to have found just that. They’ve been such a blessing these last few years. His family welcomed me as if they knew I was meant to be part of theirs from the start. His parents and step-parents are always there for me and treat me as if I’m one of their kids as well. It’s STILL hard for me to use “mom” or “dad” (since I’m fatherless as well. I know, I know this is a motherless article but I had to share why I’m thankful for his family in all angles). I find myself more and more every day referring to my two mothers in-laws as “Mom” in my head. I can’t say it out loud as often as I like to but mentally saying it is a start. I know one day I will get the courage to call them “mom” because they’re both such wonderful women and deserve that title from their daughter (sorta) in law. His cousins, uncles, aunts, and grandparents are just as wonderful. They’re one of the best people I have ever met. Each and every one of them has a special effect on my life.
I’m thankful for my daughter.
She’s my everything. She’s my reason for living this motherless life of mine. I’m grateful every day to see her grow up into such an incredible little girl. My daughter doesn’t know yet but she saved my life. I would be so lost and broken without her brightening up my darkest days. I wish more than anything she could have meant my mom, but unfortunately, life had a different plan for me. I just wasn’t meant to be a mother with her mom alive. I’m meant to be a motherless mom just like she was when I grew up. My daughter makes it all worth it even on the days she gets under my skin. That’s just part of being a mom.
I’m thankful for writing.
Okay, I know this may be silly but writing helps me get through life’s difficulties. It’s the only thing I know I can turn to when I’m feeling lost in my thoughts. Sometimes, my mind feels so heavy and too overpowering for me to function. Writing helps me get out of the funk weighting me down. It always has pushed me away from the dark and into the light. This blog and other places I was submitted to have helped me in different time periods of my life. The articles have touched so many people; I’m thankful for being able to help others through my words when they need guidance. I absolutely love when someone connects with my articles because it warms up my heart and makes me believe I was meant to be motherless so I can help others. I always told my mom that I wanted to write and touch others with my personal experiences. And guess what I’m doing now, writing and touch others with this very blog every time I post.
As you can tell I can name 4 things I’m thankful for without my mom on Thanksgiving. Life is going to go on without our moms if I or you like it. We can’t change the facts, but we can both change the way we look at life as a whole.
Thanksgiving may be one of the worst holidays, but it can also be one of the best holidays. Why, because it makes us think about all the wonderful things we do have in our lives. Yes, we may not be seeing Social Media blowing up with thankful for my mom posts today, but we’re stronger enough to breathe and focus on our own life.
If you truly need a break from Social Media, then put down your phone or shut down your computers and think about what you’re thankful for with people you care about deeply. Thanksgiving is about the family in the first place, so go ahead and have a few laughs. You deserve it.
Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!
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