Bedtime is one of these things parents always disagree on. Some parents believe bedtime isn’t a big deal. Other parents are strict on when their kids go to bed. Can you guess which parent I am? As my title states, my daughter has an early bedtime.
I believe it’s important for my daughter and me because she gets extra sleep and I get me time. Kids need more than us. As a mom, I need time to collect myself and time to do things on my own.
I started time to relax and do what I want after a day of filling everything else needs. It keeps my mind sane during motherhood.
My hubby and I started a bedtime routine when my daughter was 4 months old. She started to sleep through the night then. We agreed on having her go to bed early, so we could have time for ours. I thought this was extra important in the beginning because I was a stay at home mom. I wanted time for myself after a day with a baby. I’m not ashamed of wanting me time. The me-time helped me through motherhood.
My daughter’s bed time routine:
- Bath time
- Brush hair
As she grew up the routine adjusted times since she wanted to play during bath time. I also added in clean up time before bath time around 3, so that’s one less thing I have to do. Plus, she learns how to clean up and everything has a place.
My daughter is 5 years old now. She’s in school, so dinner is later. I also usually play with her before bath time and after dinner time because she misses me. I miss her, obviously, too.
When I was astay at home mom, I really needed me time because some days being home with a toddler could be so exhausting. I would long for bedtime on days my daughter had tantrum after tantrum. Tantrums just drain the life out of me. I can’t understand why but the sound of whining mixed with screaming makes my energy level go down. Bedtime came around and would pour myself a glass of wine then headed straight to the bath with a book and wine. I needed an escape from motherhood. On days, my daughter didn’t have a tantrum after a tantrum. I would write, read a book, play a video game with my man, or watch a grown-up show with/without my man.
As a working mom, I still value me time because after a long day at work I just want to relax. I get home because my daughter gets home from school, so we have time to spend together before bedtime. I have switched bedtime a little so we have an extra 30 minutes together as well as she wanted a snack after school then starting to have a later dinner. I will never make bedtime later than 8 pm because I need me time and she needs a good night’s sleep before school. I still do the same thing I used to do during me-time as a stay at mom home because the things are either my hobbies or things I enjoy.
A lot of people asked me if I was going to change my strict bedtime rule when I went back to work and my daughter started school; I never hesitate with an answer because I still strongly believe an early bedtime is the best idea. Look, I understand if a set bed time doesn’t work for everyone. It works for my family, so I’m standing behind my two mom teams of early bed times and set bed time.